Dating, when done right, can be a wonderful experience. Two people who like each other go out and engage in fun activities. It sounds pretty good to me. So, why aren’t more people doing it? Why has “dating” become such a bad word? I have two words for you: cheap guys.
Dating takes effort and money. Cheap guys withhold both. The cheapskates of the world have convinced single men and women that dating is outdated and useless. How many times have you heard a guy say: “I’m not into dating. It’s too much pressure. I like to just hang out with a girl and see how it goes,”? Hmm…let me decode this for you: “I want to get laid, but I don’t want to spend any money or go anywhere. Maybe I can get her to fall for the old ‘let’s just hang out and watch movies’ line.”
Ladies, next time a guy tries this line, insist that he come over to your house. Then, invite 10 of your girlfriends over. When he shows up, he’ll be surprised to see a whole slew of girls with mascara running down their faces, watching The Notebook and sobing uncontrollably. If he seems annoyed by the situation, just smile and say, “Oh, I thought you wanted to hang out and watch movies.”
Watching movies at some guy’s house does not constitute a date – especially as a first one! Women deserve to be taken out and romanced a bit, even more so when things are all shiny and new. The guy who thinks he can just pop in a DVD and order a pepperoni pizza on your “date” is not worth your time or energy. (Unless, of course, Blockbuster and Round Table are totally up your alley.)
If he’s unexciting when you’re dating, just think about 6 months from now: You’ll ask him to go out to a new lounge, and he’ll tell you that he wants to chill at home because there’s a Dog: The Bounty Hunter marathon on that night. Then, he’ll ask you for money to pay the take-out delivery guy.
I once met a guy who said he wanted to skip dating because he just wanted to be with me. I fell for it! Can you believe that shit? When we broke up two months later, I realized that he had never taken me out, even once. It wasn’t that he wanted to be in a relationship; it was that he didn’t want to spend any money on me. He had received all my affection and time without ever having to take me out. The guy was a genius! He should’ve quit his job detailing cars and worked for NASA or run for office.
True Story: My girlfriend is currently dating a cheap guy. She said she owed him $20, so she told him that she would buy some food for him when they went to the grocery store. This penny-pinching peon started grabbing his lunches for the week, by the handful. By the time they got up to the register, there was $120 worth of food in the cart. Turns out, he only had a few dollars on him!
How can you tell you’re dating a cheap guy? The signs are there, you just have to pay attention. The following are ways to know you’re “dating” Cheapy McCheaperton:
1. He never wants to go out because he’s “sick of the scene”.
2. He tells you that Valentine’s Day is just a way for Hallmark to make money.
3. At a bar, he buys two Heinekens, and then asks you for your share.
4. He never has his wallet on him.
5. He calls himself a “homebody”.
6.For a gift, he hands you a CD, still in the paper bag he bought it.
7. He’s not much of a “dater”.
8. He’s always borrowing a couple of bucks and never returning them.
9. Instead of going out and renting a DVD, he makes you watch his Empire Strikes Back DVD because he owns it - and “it’s the best one of the trilogy”.
10. He hates double dates because he has to pony up the same amount as the other dude.
If you are dating one of these close-fisted wonders – run! If you aren’t, learn how to spot one. Don’t put up with anybody’s bullshit. I'm not saying that they need to spend a fortune or that *going dutch* isn't an option, but there is a distinct difference between between being a freakin' cheapskate and wanting to share financial responsibility.
There’s no need to settle for a zero when you could be meeting great guys who want to take you out on real dates – ones that don’t involve delivery.