Sex 2.0 - doesn't sound very alluring, does it? Some might think that
it has reduced the hot, carnal act of boinking to something digital.
Perhaps sex is something that is supposed to stay in the analog realm,
tactile and messy - divinely imperfect and flawed - not something that
can be reduced to the binary.
Let me tell you about my friend Webcam Jack. I met Jack about
ten months ago on the "adult" version of YouTube. Jack is an
interesting man, while we’ve never met, never touched, never talked
other than on IM or seen each other in full - yet, we have had some
smokin' hot cyber sex.
Jack's fetish is that he gets off having other people - anonymous people - watch him get off. On camera. Published to the web.
I stumbled across Jack one day when I was looking for amateur porn to
watch. His pitch for me to watch his video was quite simple: "Cam
I clicked and found strong, handsome hands manipulating a very
large... I was transfixed and watched an hour of footage of this man,
before I sent him a private message complimenting him on his technique.
I didn't expect a reply; but, I got one. And, thus began a
conversation which would initiate me full fledged into the world of
cyber sex. It started with him IMing me late at night to ask me to
watch him live. It amped up with me sending him photos of my cleavage
in a saucy leopard print bra. Then pictures of his name written in
lipstick across my cheek, a photo which only showed my ruby red lips,
extra white teeth and naughty, naughty tongue.
I was sitting at home one day, working on an article and having
Jack’s IM window pop on my screen. We chatted briefly for a while and
then he invited me to watch him. And, I decided that it we should have
our first time... where I reciprocated.
Honestly, it was a little awkward, like all first times are, my laptop
balanced on a pillow, tilted just so... Making sure we could both
see... Typing with one hand, trying to give him the appropriate
encouragement... "Oh yes, I like that... I wish you were here... I was
there... I’d do... You could do..."
It was hot and both parties left satisfied.
It was kind of like the time that my ex-FWB, Liam, discovered he could get me off via text message.
Liam, another naughty man, texted me one night while I was out
with friends. My cell phone happened to be located in my front
pocket. He texted me in reply to a message from me earlier in the day.
My phone vibrated just so and yow, what a jolt of sexual energy!
I told him of this in my reply; and, wouldn't you know that I got about
eighteen more text messages that night from Liam. And, then several
more the next day. And, the day after that until he showed up at my
house for dinner where we consummated the promises he’d been making in
the text of those texts.
It's strange what gets us off. It's strange that so many things can. I cum just listening to my significant other describe anything from a naughty
dream to his day at the office on the phone. Something in the way he
moves me... all that romantic gunk.
The whole point of this is not to put a computer in between to people;
but, to use a computer or other device to bring two people together in
a safe way which is enjoyable. In a world of choices and risks, these
types of sexual interaction are - among consenting adults - alternative
non-contact sex is probably the safest out there.
Granted cyber sex, text sex and phone sex are kind of like the boyfriend arm pillow;
it might be nice for a nap now and then but it absolutely doesn’t
replace the real deal. I encourage all reading not to dismiss
alternative sexual choices such as these. Exploring your sexuality and
what gets you off can only open you up and make you a more whole