The "rational answer" depends entirely upon your starting point.
While most of the hubbub on both sides of the pond focuses on various egregious examples of tabloid mayhem (depending on whether you hate Nancy Grace or Rupert Murdoch more), there's been a smaller but just as shocking story developing in the rational (not necessarily to distinguish it from tabloid) world.
At a student leadership conference where she had been invited to talk about the religious Right's War on Women,"Skepchick" blogger Rebecca Watson had an unpleasant encounter:
You may recall that last week I posted this video, in which I describe an unpleasant encounter I had with a fellow atheist that I thought might serve as a good example of what men in our community should strive to avoid – basically, in an elevator in Dublin at 4AM I was invited back to the hotel room of a man I had never spoken to before and who was present to hear me say that I was exhausted and wanted to go to bed.
What she was unprepared for was an atheist community—both men and women—who dismissed her discomfort with an unsolicited sexual comment and accused her of everything from outlawing sexuality to "constantly" telling men " how sexist and destructive they are."
The irony of the situation highlights the uncomfortable image many have had in recent months of atheists being as virulently fundamentalist and shockingly anti-feminist as the religious extremists they rail against. Many skeptical women found it a disturbing betrayal of their basic principles.
But then it got worse. Atheist poster boy Richard Dawkins got in on the act over at PZ Myers' blog Pharyngula, dismissing Watson's concerns with mocking comment on the blog (did you ever think about Dawkins dropping by to comment on your blog? Imagine the pope dropping by a Catholic activist's blog!) addressed to "Muslima" that came across as vaguely racist and seemed to suggest that because Watson (and presumably any woman in a wealthy industrial nation) had no right to complain about anything that happened to them because they were not being stoned to death or mutilated by religious zealots.
There's been a huge backlash since; Dawkins entitlement and gender seem to blind him to any chance of seeing the issue rationally, so Skepchick has been gathering letters to Dawkins to address his need for education on this Feminism 101 issue and why so much of daily life is still different for women.
A letter from Robynne W. which spells it out, "It is critical to your understanding of this situation that you grasp that all women, everywhere, are engaged in constant low-level threat assessment when in public." Perhaps the most poignant comes from the Almost Diamonds blog and has been signed by a growing number of survivors of sexual assault:
You have made one more space blatantly unsafe to us. We don't mean safe as in free from any kind of sexual interest. We're not asking for that, and we don't want it. We mean that you, a leader in our community, made free with a woman's experience and rewrote it to suit your own ends.
You'd imagine a rational thinker could understand that.
K. A. Laity writes so much that she had to create some pseudonyms to keep her colleagues from thoughts of murder. A tenured medievalist at a small liberal arts college, she mostly tries to find ways to avoid meetings in order to write more . Find her on Facebook or follow her on Twitter where she attempts to employ a certain amount of rational discernment.
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