Bristol Palin. Oh, Bristol, Bristol, Bristol.
I'm sure that by now you've heard that little Miss Palin has a new book out (please finish reading this before you all rush out to buy it at once) called Not Afraid of Life. (See what she did there? I suppose Not Afraid of Abortion or Against Killing Babies just didn't have the same ring to it.)
In her book, Bristol says that her virginity was "stolen" by her baby daddy and almost-husband Levi Johnston, and she's left the media world positively reeling!
In an interview with Good Morning America Palin says that she's not accusing Levi of rape or date rape, but that she does feel like her virginity was stolen. He got her drunk on wine coolers and she apparently passed out. She says that it was a "foolish decision" and that she "should have never been underage drinking" and that she "should have never got myself into a situation like that" - but still says that her precious virginity was "stolen", while still claiming that Levi didn't rape her.
Well, here's the thing, Bristol. If you made a bad decision with, say, your iPhone - you got drunk and left it in a bar, would you say that it was lost or stolen? Probably lost, right? You were drunk, you weren't making the best decisions and paying 100% attention to your phone, so you lost it.
But if you were drinking and having a good time with your friends and someone manages to swipe your iPhone from your handbag while you're on the dance floor, you'd say it was stolen. So, saying that your virginity was stolen by Levi makes it sound like he broke in to your bedroom in the middle of the night, swiped it from your handbag while you slept, and then flogged it on eBay. Stolen, takes all of the responsibility and decision making away from you, and places it firmly on Levi. Stolen makes it sound like it happened to you, rather than it being a decision you made.
In fact, the definition of the word stolen is: "To take (another person's property) without permission or legal right and without intending to return it."
Bristol, sweetie, you are therefore implying that Levi took your virginity and had sex with you without your permission or legal right - which sounds amazingly like the definition of rape, which is "the unlawful compelling of a woman through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse."
My point isn't to call Levi a rapist or claim that Bristol was in fact raped - but more so to the point that Bristol Palin needs to understand the weight of the word "stolen", especially when using it to describe how she had sex for the first time. If Levi did not rape her, then she really need to stop saying "stolen", and emphasize the fact that SHE made the decision to get drunk and SHE made the poor decision to have sex with Levi. So how about you stop claiming that Levi Johnston got you drunk on wine coolers and stole your Alaskan Flower, and just say that you got drunk and made the impaired decision to have sex with him.
And, while we're on the subject of sex, it would be great if Miss Palin stopped saying that abstinence is the only way to prevent teen pregnancy. Yes, it's the only 100% to make sure you don't get knocked up, just as the only way to make 100% sure that you won't die in a plane crash is to not get on board a plane - but I cannot stand how dismissive she is of contraception.
She says that she was using birth control when she had her virginity "stolen" by Levi, but that it "wasn't used effectively". What, pray tell, does that even mean? Did he wear the condom on his ear? Did you put your birth control pill under your big toe rather than swallowing it? Why don't you, once again, stop blaming other things and other people for your bad decisions, Bristol? It's not the birth control's fault you got pregnant, it was yours. Birth Control in itself isn't ineffective, it's how you choose to use (or not) use it.
Bristol Palin, in my humble opinion, should focus on raising her baby, getting a real job, and laying off wine coolers - rather than preaching on about things she doesn't understand.